Sex and the Superyacht
What would you do?
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What would you do as captain or crew if the yacht owner asked you to cover up for his or her inappropriate behavior? Would you blindly go along with this wish or would you take a stand against it?
We're looking forward to your candid replies.
Go along with it as long as it was legal!
I would go along with the game as long as it was legal but would draw the line with interacting with the guest and would terminate any crew that did. It would be a definite collapse of the crew team protocol and discipline once crew got involved
As a crewmember you're expected to be totally discreet. You see nothing! You say nothing! If an owner can't come to his/her boat and be comfortable around his crew for fear of what the crew might think/say - it's not going to be a happy vessel.
Who are the crew to judge what is inappropriate? What are we talking about here? Morality? Fidelity? Drugs? Sexual orientation? Inappropriate words spelled out with the dress flags?
It was only in 2003 that the Supreme Court invalidated the sodomy laws in the 50 states, DC and Puerto Rico Lawrence v Texas 23. In FL for example, all sodomy acts were illegal (60 days jail and $500 fine.) What, you're going to start wailing if the owner is shagging a fella?! You find something strange in a pocket you were checking before doing the laundry? Put it discreetly back.
Crew are in servitude, discretion comes with it. One might be asked to sign a discretionary contract (for what it's worth) but it shouldn't be necessary. If you're uncomfortable you need to find another boat.
The incident I perhaps should have done something about as a crewmember was when the Captain pulled me aside when about to enter a Caribbean port and say: "Listen, I've got a bag of ganja in my cabin, will you go get it and put it somewhere until we've cleared in!!!" Well, knock me sideways! This captain put the vessel, the owner and the crew at risk. As it turned out his drug problem was a lot more serious than smoking grass and he disappeared from the yachting industry not too long after. I don't know if the owner if ever knew.....
Women on boats eh? Should it be allowed full stop?
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If it's about an affair, as much as I would be against it and feel for the other spouse, I would stay out of it. I would be compelled to stay out of it.
But if it was a yacht where the owner was having a naked or drug infused party without me being aware of that possibility before accepting the job, I would be dead set against it and probably scold every single person who was privy or a part of it. Including calling the authorities and jumping ship. I don't believe there is enough crew in this industry who would NOT be willing to go along with these kinds of acts. Money can make many do all kinds of stuff including going along with or tolerating illicit acts that are sometimes associated with this biz.
For me, I think that's pretty sad and cowardly. Right, Neil?
As someone with limited industry experience (Mostly in Australia) I have come across this sort of stuff A LOT .... which makes me think it must be a LOT more rife in the Med/Carribean. Fact of the matter is these people pay us good money to work for them, not council them on their behaviour.....
Do what you want, we´ll run the Vessel & keep our mouths shut!