As we know, finding love on the high seas can seem like a pipe dream, but it does
happen. Often the policy on boats is “don’t screw the crew,” but sometimes you
can’t help it. Let's face facts, we all have needs and, whether it’s purely a bunk up
or something more significant, it can be difficult not to
act on your urges, irrespective of the rules. So, now you’ve told the captain
and crew and you’re involved with a fellow crewmember, but how you interact
with your partner and your crewmates can not only make or break your
relationship, but also your position on board.
Whether you’re single or have a partner elsewhere, it’s not
fun to be around lovey dovey couples when you’ve no one and nowhere else to go. Couples on
board must understand that while they fancy themselves the cutest couple on the
quay, not everyone will agree with them. Keeping PDA to a minimum, at least when in the crew mess, will make your crewmates feel more comfortable.
Those not-so lovey dovey couples cause their own set of
problems. Even the most respectful couples can’t help bringing some tension to
work when they’ve had a row. At worst, other crewmembers get drawn into the lover’s tiff. This can divide the boat into “his” vs. “hers” teams, creating a
toxic living atmosphere. At the end of the day, no one really knows what goes on
within the confines of a couple’s relationship, nor should they. It’s pretty
unreasonable to expect anyone else to get involved – especially when everyone
has to live in such close proximity.
Once the fighting is over, couples will do well to remember that no one (unless in a
pathetically advanced state of loneliness or weirdness) wants to listen
to make-up sex through the cabin wall. Expecting your crewmates to invest in some noise-canceling headphones is unreasonable. Keep it down, please.
Flirting can be a great source of entertainment in what, at times, can
be a pretty dull existence. Sneaking around with your main squeeze,
while trying not to get caught out, can be loads of naughty fun. But remember, it’s
not your boat. Keeping secrets on yachts is nigh impossible and with the latest
technology on the scene, it could be the owner who sees footage of your lover’s
rendezvous in the bilges. Couples must be careful of where they bunk up. It’s
best, if you’re able, to get off the boat on the weekends and get a hotel room
to take care of business. If this isn’t possible, at least leave the cautionary
sock on the door knob.
Obviously, there are strong arguments for keeping boats
couple free, but on the other hand, how likely are crew to meet anyone not
involved in yachting, especially given the circumstances with which they live and work.
Humans have needs other than food and shelter – affection and sense of
belonging are important in fulfilling a person’s emotional needs in order to be
happy. Many long-term couples meet whilst working on boats, broke all the
rules, came out of the closet about their relationship and wound up very happy.
But in order to keep everything smooth sailing, it’s best to consider the rest
of the crew when dealing with your relationship…after all, you’re dating where